Catch yourself before solving your children's problems. When a problem arises between siblings and one or both come to you to solve it, stop yourself. Practice using some of these phrases:
1. "You have a problem. Have you thought about how you are going to solve it? Remember, you can't solve a problem by creating a problem for someone else."
2. "You must make a plan. Here is a pencil and paper. When you have figured out a way to solve this you may get up from the table."
3. "Are you asking me to fix this or can you fix it yourself? If I fix it, these are some of the things I will do." (Name at least 2 different ways to solve the problem.) Then, let the children decide what they will do. Never fix for children what they can fix for themselves.
Discipline With Purpose, Inc., 1997
Create your own unique website with customizable templates.